Dear Angie (by FrugalMrW)

This is a sneaky little post that FrugalMrsW my beautiful wife doesn’t know I am writing let alone publishing!

With Valentines Day rolling around this year I thought I would write a little something to let her know how special she truly is and how much she means to me.

Dear Angie,

When I met you I was a little lost, I felt hopeless, useless and stuck. I had no self esteem to speak of and very little confidence. I was living in my old bedroom at my mums house at 30 years of age and at the time I thought I was probably going to be there until my boys were 30.

Then I met you, and you hit me like a train. The moment I laid eyes on you I wanted to know who you were. When you smiled at me the room seemed suddenly brighter, crystal clear. I was still lost but in a different way and I didn’t even realise it. I tried to tell myself “no”. I didn’t believe it was possible that you would see anything in me, I didn’t believe there was anything to see in me.

Now its seven years later, nearly five years married and two beautiful children, and I am not I different person. I am the same person I always was underneath, and you showed me how to be that person. You let me be the husband you deserved, taught me how to be the father our children deserve, and showed me that I am not the person other people see.

I am my own man, I am the father I hoped to be, and I am your husband, from the moment I met you and for all my remaining days.

I am yours body and soul, always, no matter what.

Chris.

Word of the Week – Diabetic

This weeks word of the week is diabetic, for the past two years I have had my blood checked regularly as I had gestational diabetes with both my recent pregnancies so I was already classed as high risk for developing the disease, despite knowing this fact I chose to bury my head in the sand telling myself I would make the changes I needed to make tomorrow, next week or at the start of another month but I never did.

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On Wednesday morning my doctor spoke the words I was expecting to hear, I knew i hadn’t escaped it this time my symptoms had steadily become worse in the last six months and I could no longer pretend that the exhaustion,pain, thirst and hunger were just down to being a busy and stressed mum of two under 5’s.

‘You are diabetic’

Even though I knew it’s still hard to hear, lots of people think that type 2 diabetes isn’t that serious and if you are one of them like I was then please do some research as the complications that can arise from not controlling it are quite frankly frightening.

I have to make so many changes to both my diet and my lifestyle that some days it all seems a little daunting but I have to remind myself that I can do this, I can feel well again.

I’ve started on medication which will help to control the diabetes and I have an appointment with the diabetes team at my doctors surgery and also with a dietitian and I’m determined to learn all I can from them so I can help myself.

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If anyone has any advice for me or wants to share their experience of diabetes then please leave me a comment below.

I’m linking up with Jocelyn at The Reading Residence for Word of the Week.

 

The Reading Residence

 

Angela xx

Word Of The Week – Organised

This weeks word of the week is Organised , after last weeks post about re-evaluating I decided it was time to pull my socks up and get back to being organised in all areas of my life, I’m one of those annoying people who love organising I love nothing more than de-cluttering, cleaning and sorting my wardrobe according to colour (true story).

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I don’t like the feeling of being disorganised, I thrive on order and routine not that I’m a total stickler I do like the odd moment of spontaneity but I do find that I feel so much better mentally and physically if everything is in it’s place.

Instead of a planner or diary I use a bullet journal and this really helps to keep me organised but because I’ve spent most of the month feeling sorry for myself I haven’t kept up with it, this week I’ve made the effort to journal everyday and it’s really helped get me back on track.

I’ve also just started using a new planner for organising my blog and work load, splitting it into only a few tasks per day has really helped to keep me motivated and my productivity has been through the roof this week.

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We’ve started to implement some new routines at home with the children which seem to be going really well and I’ve been organising my time better during the day to the point that I’ve even had time to read a chapter a day of an actual book something that I haven’t done in a long time.

Anyway I’d better run along and sort my pens in nib length order (only kidding).

I’m linking up with Jocelyn from The Reading Residence for Word Of The Week.

Angela xx

The Reading Residence

 

 

Back From A Blogging Break And Changes Ahead

Hi folks

Late in July after writing a post about slowing down for the summer I made the decision to completely turn this blog off, I needed some time away to decide if blogging was the right thing for me to do, I had taken on a bit too much both on and off line and needed to stop everything and re-evaluate.

I knew if I just left the blog open I would be too tempted to come back to it before thinking properly about things, I’ve missed blogging so much, it’s a creative outlet for me, a way to connect with the world so to speak.

Anyway, enough of being self indulgent, the fact is that I’m back, I’m refreshed and ready to connect again but I have decided on some changes.

The biggest change is that I will not be blogging very much about the children anymore, now that Daisy is at school I’ve started to feel less comfortable about sharing, I decided a while ago that I don’t want to be a parent or family blogger I want to stay true to myself and blog about my passions (not that my children aren’t) which is money saving, frugality and all the things that come hand in hand with that sort of lifestyle.

I have many irons in the fire, I enter competitions, I hunt for freebies and bargains, I coupon, I side-hustle (fancy word for earning bits of money), I scrimp, I save, in the art of money making and money saving I do it all, or at least I’m always looking for ways to do it all.

I’ve decided that I want to share more with you about all of the things that help me
stay frugal, make or save me money as well as letting you know about bargains, offers, coupons and competitions.

I once again feel excited about blogging, I have fire in my belly and am ready to connect and share with you more than I have before.

If you are long time reader then thank you for returning and I do hope you like the new style of the blog from here on and if you are a new reader then hello, welcome pull up a chair (or sofa) and get comfortable.

Angela x

Slowing Down For Summer

I started off this month with the intention of blogging almost every day, I’ve got lots of frugal and money making ideas to share with you all, so I was surprised last week when I suddenly ran out of steam and found myself staring at a blank page with the words just not flowing but I think I know why.

One of the reasons is that the summer holidays are fast approaching and Daisy and I are more than ready for the break, I’ve no doubt we will still have very early starts to our days (thanks Jake) but the thought of not rushing around to get out the door and to school on time fills me with bliss.

Another reason is that I’ve been a woman on a mission to get ahead by decluttering  and deep cleaning the house because I’m determined to spend as much time as we can outdoors during the holidays which means less time for chores. I will admit I’m a bit of a clean freak so being over organised means that a quick swish round in the mornings should be enough to keep me happy.

With the above in mind I’ve decided to slow down for Summer, I will still be blogging but it will be sporadically. I’m aiming for one or two posts a week but I’m not going to lose any sleep if I don’t manage it.

Although I do first and foremost blog for myself and my family I know that some of you come back to read my posts each week and I’m so grateful for that hence the post to explain my absence, it may turn out that I have more time to squeeze in some posts than I thought but for now the intention is to fill the Summer days with fun and memories and not screen time.

I hope you have a fun and of course frugal Summer holidays, I will no doubt share with you what we get up to.

Angela x

Sort Out Those Niggles !

I don’t know if you are the same as me but sometimes (ok actually a lot) something will be bugging me for ages and instead of doing something about it I will grumble, sigh and ignore it and get on with my day until the next time I notice it.

I think of these things as niggles, the intention to sort them out is always there at the back of my mind and nothing ever gets done about them, but just lately I’ve been forcing myself to get off my bum and act on them immediately instead of writing them off to the land of tomorrow (never comes).

                                                           Image courtesy of David Castillo Dominici at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Here are a few examples

Problem:Jacob The Explorer

Jake like any one year old loves exploring, which means that every time the living room door gets left open he’s off into the hall or the kitchen where his favourite things to do are to lick the wheels of the buggy, attempt to remove the bin bag from the bin while the lid is on and open the cupboard and munch on a raw potato, you might think closing the door behind me is the solution but no, Jake will pay you back by sitting right behind while you suck your gut in and try and squeeze through the gap in the door whilst trying not to squash his chunky little digits in the process.

The Solution

Daisy had a safety gate on her room but we also have one at both the top and the bottom of the stairs so it wasn’t really necessary anymore, I could kick myself that I didn’t think to bring it downstairs sooner.

Problem: Addicted To Wires

This one involves Jake again, I don’t know how but his little baby brain has memorised every area in the house where a stray wire might be accessible, despite moving our bookcase as close as we can to the wall his little hands were still able to reach in the gap and access the holy grail of wires and plugs, of course we would move him away and tell him no which would be met with a look of absolute disdain and no sooner had we sat down again he was back at them.

The Solution

After the above situation had been going on for months I finally realised that if I turned the bookcase at an angle he would no longer be able to get to any of the wires or plugs, mum 1 baby nil !

Problem: Too Many Toys

I don’t know about you but one thing I really struggle with is deciding how many toys are too many, Daisy and Jake are at the age where they get more fun from strewing the toys all over the floor than actually playing with one thing at a time, this is fine in their bedrooms but in the living room it’s getting quite dangerous, we don’t have a huge amount of space and navigating mega blocks, books and dolls is becoming a very frustrating challenge.

I’m an advocate of toy rotation and not over facing children with too many choices at once so I’m quite cross with myself that this problem has developed.

The Solution

This solution actually came from Daddy, he suggested that we take almost all the toys out of the living room and let the children choose a couple of things a day to play with, these will then be put away at the end of the day.

Why is it that we let things niggle us for ages?, why don’t we just solve the problem straight away ? who knows ?

Do you find yourself doing this ? leave me a comment below I would love to hear from you.

Angela x

I Took Some Time

About a month ago I decided that I wanted a total break from blogging, I changed my settings to private, turned down a couple of opportunities and switched off.

I wasn’t sure if I would ever blog again, but something at the back of mind was niggling away at me, reminding me how much I love writing, how I’ve put almost two years into keeping a record of our family life something I wish I had done when my teenagers were little.

The past 18 months haven’t been the best for us, both health wise and financially, it’s hard for that not to come across in my blog but I started to feel uncomfortable sharing those facts, at the same time I didn’t want to paint a perfect picture and only share the lovely bits.

I’ve missed blogging and I know that a career in writing and freelance is definitely something I want to pursue when the little ones are in school full time, so I’m going to persevere, even if that means I take little breaks every now and again.

Thanks for sticking with me, I will hopefully be back soon with some new posts to share with you.

Angela x

Long Time No Blog !

Thought I would post a little update on my poor neglected blog, the amount of times I changed my mind about whether to blog ever again is ridiculous, so I’m back with a little explanation as to why I haven’t been blogging.

When I first started blogging it was because I wanted a place, an online diary a such to keep a record of our family life and also a record of the prizes, freebies and bargains I was lucky enough to receivet, I wanted to share with others a little of my life and thoughts on things, but for some reason along the way I got a little lost and didn’t know which direction if any I wanted to take the blog.

Another reason for lack of posts and direction is how tough life has become since having Jacob, he has definitely been the most challenging of all my babies, I plan to do a couple of posts on this soon.

I also think I let others opinions of my hobby influence what I wanted to share, comping incase you didn’t know already, I have been entering consumer competitions for 13 years and have had some amazing wins and experiences, last year comping and surveys saved Christmas.

So after thinking long and hard, I have decided to go back to my roots and blog about whatever I want and not worry so much about pushing myself down a particular route.

I’m definitely going to bring back ‘Webster’s Week In Wins’ which will also include any bargains I’ve found or anything that has saved us money.

I’m also bringing back ‘Webster’s Week In Review’ even if it’s just a mish mash of photo’s, these posts after all are memory banks for our family.

The rest of my posts will be a mixture of family life, days out, activites, random thoughts about things and anything else in between.

Although I write for myself, I do know that some of you lovely people return often to catch up with us, thank you so much for that.

Angela x

All Quiet On The North West Front

Up until the middle of August I was blogging regularly, the ideas for posts were coming thick and fast, the inspiration and motivation to do things so I could blog about them was at an all time high, then all of a sudden everything stopped.

If you are a regular reader of my blog then you may have read other posts where I have touched on the fact that I do suffer bouts of depression, I can’t tell when this is going to happen and one morning in August from the minute I woke up I knew the horrible darkness was back.

As I get older I’m starting to recognise the build up to a bout and what my triggers are, there were a few things niggling me for weeks that I didn’t confront and unfortunately that’s the outcome for me.

I’m also convinced that I’ve had a bad reaction to the contraceptive injection (Depo), I am going to write a separate post explaining about it.

Anyway, I’m feeling so much better, I had a kind of rock bottom moment recently and it’s been onwards and upwards ever since.
I decided not to seek medical help this time around and instead have looked at ways that I can help myself through it, it’s a work in progress and I now accept that I will have to work really hard the rest of my life to not let depression gets it’s hooks well and truly in.

My head is once again full of ideas of things I want to do and write about, now comes the task of finding the time.

I had stopped writing some of my regular posts as I wasn’t sure which direction I wanted to take my blog, but I reminded myself that this is my space to write in, I’m writing for me and if I’m lucky enough for anyone else to read it then that’s a bonus.

I’m going to be working on a posting schedule to keep me focussed as I know that writing is my therapy, I’m going to bringing back some of the old regular posts I used to write like ‘Webster’s Week In Wins’ which I’m going to revamp to include my success with surveys, I’ve also got some ideas for new regular posts.

The most important thing for me at the moment to accept is that if I don’t feel like blogging I won’t, I don’t want to lose the joy of writing so I’m taking the pressure off myself.

Thanks for reading.

Angela x

Webster’s Week In Review 23rd-29th June 2014

I’ve decided to bring back the week in review posts I used to write, I’ve really missed sharing our week as it helps to keep me motivated into taking more photo’s and planning our week a little better.

This week hasn’t been the best, we had some sad family news that just seemed to go from bad to worse, it’s awful when people you are close to are hurting and there isn’t much you can do to help.

I have also not been feeling too great this week, I’ve felt a bit like I’m treading water but not really getting anywhere, Chris has done more than his fair share of the night feeds but I still don’t feel rested.

I’m a very organised person by nature and having no routine is getting me down a little, I know it won’t last but I will be jumping for joy when Jake settles into a routine and I can start planning my days a bit better.

I did manage to get out for a few hours this week and meet up with my comping friends for a meal and a gossip so that lifted my spirits.

Anyway here are some pictures from our week.

 

I wore my lucky horseshoe earrings for the compers meet, I’m hoping they have brought me some luck and I will have a big win soon !

I made Tagliatelle for the first time ever this week, I can’t believe how simple it is to make and it was delicious.

I found some brilliant bargains at Mothercare for Jake, all the above cost me just under £10, I’m building up his toy collection as we gave all Daisy’s old baby toys away.

That’s about it for this week, I’m hoping for a much better week ahead.

The health visitor is coming tomorrow for a final visit which I’m not looking forward to, I would much rather be left to get on with things than be given advice I don’t agree with and am not going to follow anyway.

Have you done anything exciting this week ? Do you struggle when things feel a bit disorganised ? leave me a comment below and let me know.

Angela x