Sometimes relationships just have to end. They don’t necessarily come to an abrupt halt because of cheating, abuse, or financial issues; sometimes they just fizzle out. When this happens it’s no one’s fault, and often the couple might not even realise that they’ve lost their spark until many years down the line. 

 These kinds of situations can, of course, go on without anyone doing anything about it. You can continue to stay with someone you’re no longer attracted to and don’t feel much love for, and it happens a lot – it’s easier that way, after all. Yet it would be kinder to both of you if, when you find yourself in this situation, you were able to call it quits. As difficult as it might be, in the end, you’ll both be glad it happened as you can go on with your lives and do what you need to be happy. Here are some useful tips on how to end this kind of relationship in the right way so that no one blames anyone else. 

Talk In Person 

It’s crucial that, if you want to talk about the state of your relationship, you do so in person. A text or an email might be an easy option, but it’s never going to be enough, and if you want a clean break, a frank and honest discussion is the best thing you can do. 

 Make sure you both have enough time to spare and that you’re not distracted by other things. If you’re honest with yourselves, you’ll both know what this talk is going to be about, and you’ll know what you want to say. It’s important, to be honest about how you feel and not to judge the other person for anything they do or say. Assuming you both want the same thing, you’ll be able to discuss your options and start working on your separation in a grown-up and sensible way. 

Entirely Break Off Contact For A Short While 

This might seem like an unusual thing to suggest if you have no particular animosity towards your ex, but it works well. Once you have determined that the relationship is at an end, it’s wise to spend some time apart from one another. One of you should move out of your property if you share one together and put your things into storage until you know exactly what the situation is. You might, for example, choose to sell the property if you own it, and until the money comes through renting a smaller place to keep costs down could work out well. 

 Even if you want to talk and stay friends, staying away from one another while you both adjust to your new life apart is the best thing you can do. If not, you might find that you’re forcing yourselves into more emotional stress than is needed. You’ll both recover from the breakup faster with a little time apart to focus on other things.  

Allow Yourself To Feel 

Hiding away your feelings and emotions is never going to be helpful, and in many situations, it can make everything seem much more intense and upsetting. If you just let your feelings out and acknowledge them, they will be a lot easier to cope with. 

 It’s good to talk to a friend or loved one as well. Someone who is removed from the situation is best as they won’t try to persuade you to go back to the relationship or congratulate you for ending it – neither piece of advice is helpful when you’re trying to heal.

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